Stalkers are something we are not raised knowing about.
Our parents teach us to stay away from strangers and scary people, but do they completely warn us of the true dangers. Stalkers are something you cannot control. A situation can turn ugly and scary very fast. It is unpredictable.
According to Mullen and colleagues, there are five different types of stalkers. There is the rejected who usually stalks after the end of a relationship between a partner, family member, or coworker. There is the intimacy seeker who makes up romantic feelings, although the victim does not want the attention. This type of stalker often has a mental disorder such as deliria or schizophrenia. The incompetent is a type of stalker that is socially and romantically challenged. Their victim most commonly does not reciprocate the emotions. Unlike the intimacy seeker, the incompetent does not see uniqueness in his victim and does not believe the victim shares the emotions. They simply believe they deserve a partner. The resentful stalker stalks to scare and add distress to their victim. They seek revenge and feel like they have gone through injustice. Finally, the predator; this stalker usually has a history of being a sexual abuser. They also research into the lives of their victim and often rehearse their attack on the victim.
Not only celebrities are in danger of these predators. According to safehorizon.org, 3.4 million men and women fall victim to stalkers. 50 percent of these victims are under the age of 30. An even scarier thought, 76 percent of women killed by their intimate partners were stalked by them first.
With all the social networks asking for your hometown, relatives, and high school you attend, it is difficult to keep yourself safe from one of these predators. If a person wanted to find you, it would be as easy as logging onto Facebook. Many kids underestimate the power and danger of the internet and often friend people they do not know, making it that much easier for a stalker.
The real question is; are we truly ready and aware of the dangers that creep around our local super markets, parks, theaters, and car washes?
I am not saying that everyone should freak out and be scared for their lives. The fact is that the danger is out there and everyone should be aware of who they are around and how easy it is to be contacted. Don’t be scared, be aware.
If you feel like you may be in danger, keep a detailed diary, inform your friends, family, and neighbors, and finally, contact your local police station. Help is out there for you.
Above Image: 52% of stalking victims are betweeen the ages of 18 and 29.(Image By Milton Ramirez)